I feel this so hard. My husband has been dealing with liver cancer for almost seven years now, and every time he's able to join a family get-together, my mother-in-law says something to me like, "He looks like he's feeling better today," which I know really means she's just happy he's present. But I want to yell, "He's been in bed most of the past five days. He was barely able to get himself down the stairs, much less out the door today and is covering for the fact that he feels like garbage."

I know they don't understand because they're not seeing it firsthand, day to day, but sheesh, toxic positivity triggers my anger so quickly these days.